Trauma & Abuse Resources — Christ the King Presbyterian Church

Trauma and Abuse Resources

 

We have compiled this page of resources to aid our congregation with managing, coping with and growing after traumatic experiences.

We know the news of the abuse allegation will impact each of us differently. Some of us will be confused. Some will be hurt or angry.  Some will be afraid. Some will be deeply heartbroken. Be encouraged that whatever you feel, the Lord knows your heart and the Holy Spirit intercedes for you with groans that words cannot express. We will all need our time to process, grieve and reckon with this. We understand that trust will be hard to come by amongst each other for some time. We do not expect you to process this or feel any particular way by a certain point in time. Please, be gentle with one another and yourselves. Take the time you need. Find support with the Lord, with each other and from any of the resources we can provide you. 


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7 Guidelines for Conversation

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As the current situation is extraordinarily difficult to talk about, the elders would like to offer some encouragements for how to relate to and care for each other well during this time of collective processing (click each guideline below for more detail):

 

Mental Health and Traumatic Experiences

 

Presentation slides from the talk Trauma and Healing 101 by Brennan C. Mallonee, LMHC (posted with permission).

Detaching From Emotional Pain (Grounding) - set of strategies to facilitate “healthy detachment” from emotional pain

Self-Care Assessment - to help you learn about your self-care needs by spotting patterns and recognizing areas of your life that need more attention

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Abuse Response Training Materials

 

From churchcares.com

We believe every church must be equipped to respond well in the initial stages of learning about instances of sexual, physical, or emotional abuse. That is why we created Becoming a Church that Cares Well for the Abused. This training curriculum of a handbook, an introductory video, and 12 lesson videos brings together top experts from various fields to help leaders understand and implement the best practices for handling the variety of abuse scenarios at church, school, or ministry. The most comprehensive training is experienced by using the handbook and videos together.

 
 
 

You may also refer to the Ad Interim Committee Report on Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault that was prepared for the 49th General Assembly of the Presbyterian Church in America.

 

Resources For Parents

 

Talking to your Child about Sexual Abuse provides some helpful tips for addressing sexual abuse with children and youth. This sample script from Kelly Miller, LMHC is offered to guide parents in talking about the abuse report with their children.

Teaching Touching Safety Rules is a resource to help parents teach kids about their bodies, personal space, and safe and unsafe touches.

Parents may also contact the Middlesex County Child Advocacy Center for information on how to communicate these things to your children and what to do if you believe your child has been a witness to or experienced abuse.

Parents might also find the following books helpful in educating their children to protect themselves and their bodies…

 
 

MinistrySafe provides online sexual abuse awareness training to equip individuals to better understand the risk of child sexual abuse. If you would like access to this training (about an hour long self-paced video series), please email Dana Russell our Children’s Ministry Director for more detials.

In an online conversation with the Trinity Forum, Rachael Denhollander (attorney, author, advocate, and educator recognized as a leading voice on the topic of sexual abuse) answers the question: How do you protect your children from abuse, even from infancy?

 

Counseling Resources

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We are in the process of identifying counselors who can help you, if you do not already have a counselor. Please reach out to us and we will help you get counseling and financial assistance if you need it.

 

FAQ

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Please note: Additional FAQ content will be forthcoming.


CONTACTS

If you have something you would like to report, get information or guidance on, please contact the individuals listed as appropriate.

Pastor Travis Drake: specialcase@ctkcambridge.org

Children’s Ministry Director Dana Russell: report@ctkcambridge.org

Cambridge Police Department, Detective Matthew Grassi: mgrassi@cambridgepolice.org, (617) 349-3283

MA Department of Children and Families (DCF)

Middlesex County Child Advocacy Center

 
 
 
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